{"id":5347,"date":"2014-05-28T10:57:28","date_gmt":"2014-05-28T02:57:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elijahconsulting.com\/?page_id=5347"},"modified":"2016-10-21T12:30:33","modified_gmt":"2016-10-21T04:30:33","slug":"fear-the-dark-room-where-negatives-are-developed","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/elijahconsulting.com\/fear-the-dark-room-where-negatives-are-developed\/","title":{"rendered":"Fear. The Dark Room where Negatives are Developed?"},"content":{"rendered":"
Download the pdf<\/a><\/strong><\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/a>This saying is bandied about by gurus and repeated, mantra-like, by the faithful. A related saying is \u201cNo Fear\u201d, which is actually another way of saying \u201cNo Respect.\u201d We are constantly bombarded with messages telling us that FEAR is \u201cF<\/strong>alse E<\/strong>vidence A<\/strong>ppearing R<\/strong>eal\u201d, \u201cF<\/strong>ace E<\/strong>verything A<\/strong>nd R<\/strong>ise\u201d and \u201cF<\/strong>orget E<\/strong>verything A<\/strong>nd R<\/strong>un\u201d. These messages seem to be saying that we can and should conquer our fears, that if we would only face our fears, we would rise above them and achieve all that we set our minds to accomplish. That is one reason why we must use quotations judiciously. Our minds tend to be lulled into thinking that the quotes are all there is. Seldom do we haul our lazy selves off our haunches and get down to finding out what the story behind any particular quote happens to be.<\/span><\/p>\n Some fear is actually good for us. It helps to keep us alive. Other fears are detrimental in the sense that they keep us back from being and doing all that we were designed to be and to do. Whatever fears we have, healthy or unhealthy, in keeping with the quote, when negatives are developed, we get pictures. We get photographs. What photographs we get depends on what light was absorbed by the film we call the negatives. If we have taken pictures of sad, angry, grotesque or horrible scenes, we will get photographs showing what we have pointed our cameras at. If we choose to take pictures of positive, joyful and inspiring scenes, we will get positive, joyful and inspiring photographs. Fear is not about negatives being developed in a dark room, it is about what we choose to focus on. So is boldness. We become bold when we choose to focus on thinking, saying and doing what is true, right and just.<\/span><\/p>\n There is a dangerous fallacy encouraging leaders to simply squash their fears and put it behind them, as though those fears would simply disappear. No, the fears do not disappear. They will remain until you have resolved the issues that caused those fears to arise. What does happen is that when you focus on achieving positive, future-focused goals in your life and take the first steps to achieving them, you find that you start to soar above your fears. That doesn\u2019t mean they have gone away! If you are flying around happily in the sky, your unresolved fears will be tracking you and they will shoot you down at the first opportunity they get! What you need to do is once you are in flight, take a bit of time to locate and destroy those fears. Recognize, though, that even as you take them out one by one, your fears have a very strong capability of being replaced, rearmed and even reinforced with more sophisticated fears. You don\u2019t have to spend too much time worrying about them, but take them out you must, one way or another. Simply ignoring them is foolhardiness that you cannot afford.<\/span><\/p>\n